UPDATE: Due to this entry being linked on some MRA site, I’m closing down the comments.
It’s now time for me to point out that abortion is really just one facet of a much bigger problem, and that concentrating on abortion is ultimately heading in the wrong direction. Abortion, when it is involved, happens way after the fact, the harm having been done a long time ago.
Of course, it is to the advantage of the patriarchy to frame the debate in terms of abortion, since placing the entire focus on abortion puts the burden squarely on women. Forcing the victims to deal with the damage imposed on them is a common reframing tactics for people in power. We observe it in the case of suicide (you were born without your consent and want out… well, we’ll persecute you if you try to leave), drug abuse (you’ve been abused in childhood… well, we’ll persecute you for trying to palliate the pain) and poverty (you were born in a poor family… well, good luck changing that, because we’re gonna discriminate against you), to name only these examples, but I don’t think there’s any area where it’s not used to some extent. It’s merely an extension of blaming the victim.
We know what and who is really responsible for unwanted pregnancies. PIV (penis-in-vagina) is what starts the process, and men are responsible, not women. The anti-abortion Christian anti-feminists aren’t going to tell you that, and the pro-choice liberal fun-fems aren’t going to tell you that, because their worldview implicitly hinges on the female submission to, and enthusiastic acceptance of, PIV. So they have no interest whatsoever in putting any focus on the fact that PIV is the root cause and that abortion is a distant consequence of PIV.
The indoctrination we receive about PIV is pretty astonishing. We are all taught that PIV, and only PIV, is worthy of being called “sex.” Males are indoctrinated to believe that they are entitled to PIV from women. Females (yes, even fun-fems) are indoctrinated to believe that they only have worth in society if they are PIV-worthy and “put out.”
The rationalizations that people raise in support of PIV are endless, pathetic ego-based reactions of the same kind you get when you talk about antinatalism. Let’s talk about facts. Only 15-35% of women (more likely on the lower end) can have orgasms from PIV. PIV is dangerous, can transmit diseases, brings about unwanted pregnancies, and can lead to death.
A clear half of pregnancies are unwanted, and half of those pregnancies result in abortion. This is an incredible statistic. Guess why these pregnancies occur? Men’s (and a few women’s) craving for PIV. A program against wife-beating in a Ghanian district had stunning results: when wife-beating was actively discouraged, the birth rate dropped by more than one child per family. Obviously some percentage of unwanted pregnancies are due to spousal abuse. In the US, 25% of women will be physically abused in their lifetime (Massey, J. Domestic Violence in Neurologic Practice. Archives in Neurology), so this is a massive issue everywhere, not just in places where uxorial rape is legal.
I can’t confront husbands and their bizarre belief that endangering their wife’s psychological health, physical health or even their life is a loving thing to do. How fucked up can you be to believe such appalling nonsense? How much do you have to despise someone to make them go through the trauma of pregnancy and childbirth?
If any fun-fem reads this entry (as my readers are mostly radicals, this is rather unlikely, but always possible), he or she will no doubt accuse me of being “sex-negative,” based on the bizarre belief that PIV, and only PIV, is sex. This is a common tactic used against people who argue against PIV. It is also completely, absolutely insane. But when you point out to these people that there obviously are other kinds of sex than PIV, they will tell you that those other kinds of sex are “not really sex.”
This leads to 1984-level redefinition of terms: anal sex is not really sex, oral sex is not really sex, mutual masturbation is not really sex, other uses of genitals that lead to orgasm are not really sex, and so on. It’s only “really sex” if it can lead to procreation and inflict trauma on a woman, just like how marriage is only “really marriage” if it can lead to procreation.
The belief in PIV as a man’s right is responsible for keeping women in their place socially and economically, beat down women physically and psychologically, and shackle them to procreation as their life’s highest duty. This is why abortion is such a convenient divisive topic for the prevalent PIV-positive ideologies: it maintains domination over women by making the actions of men (PIV) into the responsibility of the women (having an abortion or childbirth). But abortion is just one part of the debate.
I realize it may sounds hypocrite of me to say that abortion is just one part of the debate when I’ve spent four months arguing about abortion. Fair enough. I just have little to say about a debate where the other side’s arguments are basically sophisticated versions of “me feel good when stick pee-pee in pussy, me big dick, me make baby, baby good” and “me feel good when pee-pee is in pussy, me ‘modern woman’,” because this is basically what the PIV discussions reduce themselves to.
At least the other sides in the abortion debate have arguments. They’re not particularly good arguments, but they have substance to them. But then again, it looks rather better to argue against abortion than to argue in favor of tens of millions of unwanted pregnancies and the exploitation of women all over the world, so I understand why PIV-positive dupes may not want to think about it too much.