I got this from an archive of the Why Won’t God Heal Amputees forum. It’s an old article called Why Does God Need Us?
By absorbing those functions of the Pantheon compatible with his core nature as King/Father (e.g. Warrior, Sage, Protector, Bringer of Justice, Husband, Creator, Source of Fertility, Lord of the Dead, etc.) and smashing those completely incompatible (Sex-Goddess, the feminine-as-Divine per se), he became as multifaceted as a real person. And so he is perfect Love and furious wrath (as any parent who spanks their child is on a smaller scale). He is the gentle Husband and the fierce Warrior.
When his hosts are faced with overwhelming military supremacy of a rival god’s followers, as they were in Jesus’ day, he calls upon them to be gentle, loving, and peaceful. When his hosts have the upper hand (as they did after Constantine handed him the Roman Legions) he can be warlike and violent, exterminating the hosts of other gods and their transmission media (temples, statues, books). Should his armies face defeat, he blames his hosts’ wickedness and failure to obey him completely, and his wrath is manifest upon them. Should his armies prevail, then his might is demonstrated. Victory or defeat, both are manifestations of his power, so he wins either way.
Since his Word contains commands to surrender to overwhelming enemy force (e.g. the Book of Jeremiah, Jesus’ instructions to ‘turn the other cheek’) and crush them underfoot (e.g. the Book of Joshua, and the Book of Revelation), both options are always available to him, just as they are to an individual faced with the prospect of conflict.
The Bible’s contradictory portrayals of his character are not flaws–they are the secrets of his success.