An obvious fact, but I think it bears repeating. Okanagangurl, a mother who regrets having children, wrote such an entry borne out of painful experience.
First of all, when you have a newborn, expect to be up with your baby every few hours, 24 hours a day. This is all well and fine during the daytime hours, but when you’re accustomed to having your evenings carved out as “me time”, having a screaming infant in your ear every 2 to 4 hours all night long can really start to cramp your style. What about getting a babysitter? Good luck finding someone who is willing to watch a screaming baby who won’t calm down. Can’t the babysitter just give your baby a bottle? Sometimes, nothing soothes a baby more than the comfort of mommy. Guess what that means for you? You can’t go out in the evenings. For awhile. Maybe a year or maybe 5 years. As for the mornings? Forget sleeping in for at least 5 or 6 years (or more, if you have more than one child). A lot of kids until the age of 5, wake up between 5 am and 7 am. Consider yourself as one of the lucky ones if your child wakes up after 7 am every morning. On a regular, staying-in-kind-of-night, don’t expect to have unlimited time to work on your blog posts, read your favourite book, catch up on the latest tv shows, or work on work-related or personal projects because your kids will continue to keep you on your toes 24 hours a day. Sure, you may have one or two “good” nights a week, where there are few or no wake-ups from your kids, but is this really the the kind of life you want for yourself? Not having kids means you get to keep your free time and keep your dreams alive.