The Childfree Talk discusses the inherent sexism in people who tell women that they’ll regret not having children.
Here’s a question. Why isn’t this prediction ever made at people who are men?
Maybe because when men assert something, people believe that they’ve thought the matter through, and made their minds up, and that to challenge their convictions would be hideously rude and pointless. He doesn’t want kids, and who else gets a say in that? Nobody.
Meanwhile, women’s brains – and their choices – belong to everybody but them.
Why do some people delight in the idea that a childfree woman will be ‘proven wrong’ someday? Why do they not only enjoy that idea, but also see it as a personal triumph – something to do with them?
And now, from the BBC, here is a case in point.
Many were supportive, both men and women saying they felt the same way. As for the negative ones, some said things she had heard before – that she would change her mind, that she was selfish and that the National Health Service shouldn’t pay for her to be sterilised as the money would be better spent on sick children. Then came the abuse.
“People sought me out to say they were glad I haven’t reproduced, that they’re pleased there won’t be any more people like me in the world. They cast aspersions on my mum and said I need psychological help,” Brockwell says.