We live in a rape culture, but we also live in a pedophile culture.

We seem to live in a society where pedophilia is being pushed on us as the newest “edgy” form of sexuality. But pedophilia, in the form of sexual desire for infantile characteristics, is already ingrained in our culture. Alicen Grey discusses the evidence for pedophile culture.

In pedophile culture, women are outright pressured to regularly shave or wax their nether regions and underarms. The cosmetics industry — again, targeted at women — peddles “anti-aging” creams and lotions that will make our skin “baby soft!”

In pedophile culture, we casually refer to grown women as “girls.” We have a word specifically for attractive female teenagers: jailbait. Women are sexualized as chicks, kittens, and babes.

In pedophile culture, I often catch men in public checking me out with eyes full of lust, until they see the hair on my legs — at which point, they resort to a theatrical display of disgust. I’ve eavesdropped on groups of college-age guys talking about how they won’t perform oral sex on a woman if her labia are too prominent. One man who had been pursuing sex with me for three years, suddenly changed his mind when I revealed that I do not, and will not, shave off my pubic hair. In other words, many men stop being attracted to me when reminded that I am a woman, and not a young girl.

Surely all of these men, who have a “preference” for the aforementioned qualities in women, aren’t pedophiles by the strict definition of the word. But it seems that a high number of men, likely as a result of deep cultural conditioning, find many of the same things attractive in a woman that a pedophile would find attractive in a girlchild. Small labia, tight vaginas, intact hymens, baby-soft skin, hairless limbs and vulvas, eternal youthfulness, tiny frail bodies… As tumblr user reddressalert wrote, “how do we not recognize that this is essentially a description of a baby or a toddler?”

4 thoughts on “We live in a rape culture, but we also live in a pedophile culture.

  1. roughseasinthemed June 12, 2016 at 21:45 Reply

    The first time I read about the comparison with women who shaved their pubes and girls I nearly freaked out. Total body shaving also seems to be prevalent in the BDSM community which is hardly surprising given the abuse of women under the guise of ‘submission’ that goes on there. And then, there is the whole Daddy/little girl scenario. That is paedo and incest combined. Truly bizarre.

    • Francois Tremblay June 13, 2016 at 00:13 Reply

      Yea, I’ve been delving into this whole DD/lg thing. It seems to me more egregious than regular BDSM, if only because of the sexualization of children and children’s things.

      • roughseasinthemed June 13, 2016 at 00:41 Reply

        Alan Ayckbourn wrote a fascinating play involving a woman who regressed into childhood. I mentioned it here when I wrote about BDSM generally:
        https://cloudsmovingin.wordpress.com/2016/01/20/bdsm-and-feminism/
        I find the whole lack of responsibility as an adult, wanting pink sparkly glitter not just annoyingly gender stereotypical, but just plain off-the-wall.
        But isn’t this all looped in together? Control (primarily), treating women as children, linguistics – you didn’t include dolls, but that’s another classic, what are dolls if not little girls? Uf. Possessions. Toys. Fucktoys. This is what it is all about. To me. As a ‘girl’.

  2. The Fool June 19, 2016 at 18:52 Reply

    Can I add to this my theory of why women need to shave?
    Women not shaving is a lot like suicide, because suicide throws into question the point of anyone giving life any sort of effort and it makes a mockery of the will to live, suicide becomes not a personal choice or act but something to be socially explored, regulated, and banned.
    Women not shaving is a problem not so much because of personal taste, but because there is a clear social role for women. A woman with body hair can only be perceived to be making a statement, because like suicide, behaviors which vastly challenge the social order are never personal but are social, they instigate discourse, opinions, regulations, and endless theories.
    Individual men prefer hairless women because they have gotten pleasure and preoccupation with the images and idea of hairless women. Society enforces hairlessness in women because hair is easy to make repulsive. People do not often question the reason why hair in their food or on their soap is met with such disgust. When we understand that there is something about hair in general which is disgusting, the question becomes ‘why women?’ Well, in part because women are already by nature less hairy than men. Secondly, women are conditioned to be more concerned with how their bodies might offend, women are often reluctant to accept oral sex because of the view that female genitalia smell repulsive. Men have accepted their bodies as repulsive, and expect of women to be not repulsive. There is a social order that men should be accepted as having icky human bodies but women should be lacking in all those things which make the human body disgusting.
    I think relating the obsession with female body hair solely to pedophilia is a mistake because it obscures the far more interesting and potentially uncomfortable question. Why is it that men are accepted as having disgusting human bodies, but women are expected to lack those things which make the human body disgusting? Ancient Greek men preferred young men because they lacked the grossness of the human body, and easy proof that society can become based on a pedophilic male sexuality. However anthropological evidence of people where grown men were sexual with other grown men calls into question the idea of a pedophilic male nature. Yet the “joke” of smelly female genitals is far more common cross-culturally than male repulsion for other grown men. Although pedophilia is important, I think there needs to be a separation of pedophilia and an actual disgust for the female body in itself and how this relates to whatever cause and purpose for de-sexualising the male body.
    If society does not construct sexuality around the true male appreciation for the female body, what is it constructed around? Is it perhaps the very game of “getting” women? If so this explains why the notion that women will police their bodies for male pleasure is such an obsession for men. It is easy to explain how much heterosexuality is constructed around the alienation between men and women that is becomes exciting through the navigating of this alienation and the way this relates to the obsession and eroticism of the idea that women will “do things” for him, (like shave). What is less clear is the sheer breadth of the difference between the acceptance of the male body as grossly human, and the need for the female body to lack any grossness at all. I think this is the far more pressing question.

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