A theory is supposed to help you modelize reality in some limited aspect, and help you understand it. If your theory is that anything goes, then that’s a shit “theory.”
If your gender theory tells you that you need to do surgery on your genitals so that your external appearance matches society’s stereotypical view of how people should behave, then maybe it’s time to abandon the idea of gender altogether and recognize that biological sex is a reality, but that our personalities (and bodies) are fine just the way they are.
If your gender theory tells you that a person who has been given male privilege starting at 3 months – and has made use of that privilege for his entire life – has more insight into what being a woman really is than people born and raised as women their entire lives, then your gender theory is giving men an expert status over the one thing that up until recently they weren’t considered experts on. Groundbreaking!
If your gender theory tells you that a woman must put a penis in her body in order to prove that she is a lesbian, then your gender theory is rape apologia barely disguised and you should be ashamed of yourself.
If your gender theory tells you that penises and vaginas literally don’t exist, then your gender theory is literally insane.
Look, people. Have whatever personality you want. That’s great. Dress how you want. Do it all! But don’t tell me that a person who acts feminine, whatever that means, must now be a woman, and a person who acts masculine, whatever that means, must now be a man. That’s enforcing a strict code of behavior, not releasing us from bonds. You’re actually more conservative than the conservatives! Think about it, please.