Transition is not a proportionate response to body dysphoria.

b0rnwr0ng asks: why does everyone assume that medical transition is the only possible treatment for dysphoria? Who gains respectability, and a lot of money, from this “surgery-or-suicide” false dogma?

Being isolated from others who have complicated feelings about their transition and being unaware of alternative ways to handle the feelings that led me to transition seemed to be the main factors that kept me from exploring negative feelings about this stuff. Without access to those, I think I would have continued transitioning indefinitely. It didn’t feel like a choice. I have a major beef with that- the idea that transition isn’t a choice.

I felt I had no choice but transition for a long time, and the reason I felt that way was because other choices were not offered to me. I didn’t know anyone who had survived feelings like mine without transition, and I didn’t have any ideas about how someone might do that. That’s a problem! How can someone give informed consent to transition when they believe the only alternative is a miserable life eventually cut short by suicide? People who transition believing it’s absolutely the only way they can ever experience any relief are people whose community and healthcare professionals have failed them.

4 thoughts on “Transition is not a proportionate response to body dysphoria.

  1. sellmaeth July 6, 2017 at 11:54 Reply

    What I can’t understand that when there are other alternatives being mentioned, many trans people react by hating the person who suggested that surgery might not be needed.

    I mean, the fact that male transitioners hate feminists isn’t so surprising considering that men tend to hate feminists. (Though it is strange that feminists used to be accused of wanting to cut off men’s penises, and now we are hated for NOT wanting penises to be cut off.)

    But female trans, who might not yet have had surgery, going into full temper tantrum mode whenever a radical feminist says “Hey, lots of women aren’t comfortable in their bodies, it’s the patriarchy, we can fight that by changing society” … that, I do not understand. That would be a way to not have surgery and still be happy – why do they not even consider it?

    (I am sure the whole “terf” slur is branded by males, but the fact that females parrot it unthinkingly is weird. I mean, females aren’t even “excluded” by radical feminists … not that being “excluded” from music festivals or toilets would be anywhere up on the top ten list of the worst things women suffer under patriarchy.)

    • Deep Thinking July 6, 2017 at 12:26 Reply

      “But female trans, who might not yet have had surgery, going into full temper tantrum mode whenever a radical feminist says “Hey, lots of women aren’t comfortable in their bodies, it’s the patriarchy, we can fight that by changing society” … that, I do not understand. That would be a way to not have surgery and still be happy – why do they not even consider it?”

      It would mean accepting their individual suffering is shared by lots of women.

      • sellmaeth July 6, 2017 at 12:39 Reply

        “It would mean accepting their individual suffering is shared by lots of women.”

        It would. But wouldn’t that be a comfort? Why refuse to even consider it?

        • Deep Thinking July 6, 2017 at 14:24 Reply

          As comforting as relinquishing exclusive rights over anything one identities with. Or accepting that one is not an unique, ulltimately free-willed agent, but an expression of social conditioning…

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